Friday, August 10, 2012

Day 223: Texted Happy Birthday

Before jumping into my random act, I wanted to give one final update on Lindsey and I doing the Live Below the Line challenge.  We have combined to lose about 17 lbs. in just under 5 total days of doing this.  There were certain points where we thought about cheating and/or giving up (Lindsey wanted to lick one of Isla's peaches just to get the taste), but we started to think about the people who live in extreme poverty and knew it would be a disservice to them.  Doing this challenge can never really equate to what these people are going through because on top of being near starvation most of the day, they are also struggling to find shelter for themselves and their families.  Once again, the big reason that we did this random act is to help support one of our Facebook friends, Victoria Rose of Australia.  She still has 5 more days to go in order to complete her 15 day challenge of living below the line.  If you would like to support her in her quest to raise food and cattle for impoverished folks, please visit her Oxfam website. Now on to my act.

When I write this blog, I sometimes forget that I am writing to thousands of complete strangers.  Well, I guess at this point, you all can't be considered strangers.  You are my random acts friends at this point, and I thank you for that.  I figured since we are all friends now, and friends know about one another's lives, then I can open up more on here.  I haven't mentioned someone on this blog before, mostly out of anger.  That person is my father.  There are many reasons why I am angry, but they mostly have to do with previous treatment of my sister and mom.  I'm not going to get into that though.  We haven't spoken since Isla was born, and I am not really sure why.  Sure it is probably a massive amount of stubbornness on both ends, but I feel like maybe there is fear on both sides to take the leap to reach out.  At the beginning of my random acts, I made it a point to tell myself and others that there isn't a single person out there who doesn't deserve one of my random acts.  So today, for my random act of kindness, I have decided to break the silence and send a text to my father to wish him a Happy Birthday.  I don't know where it will go from here.  If it goes nowhere, then it goes nowhere, but I am sticking by my guns and being kind to even those who have pissed me off and made me sad in the past.  Sorry to get all emo on you guys, but then again, we are friends now, and that's what friends are for.  Hmmm...That's What Friends Are For...This song goes out to all the readers of this blog!


  1. It's my dad's birthday too ... And the situation is really similar ... So sad ... But I have tried to be positive today and I think I still have some time to bake a cake for him ...

  2. Ryan, Goodluck with your Dad. I've been in similar family situations. I know its very hard to go through something like this. My advice is to reach out to try to talk. You did your part. Now you have to wait for their response. If things don't work out at least you will have the peace of mind knowing that you tried. Just remember that you only have control over what you say or do & that you have no control over what the other person says or does. Sometimes you really wish you did though. I've came to the conclusion that I would prefer to only have people in my life that bring me joy & happiness. Life is too short to have people that always drag you down or make you extremely angry most of the time when you're around them. I prefer to have good vibes & karma around me.

    Thanks for the song!! Sometimes we forget what friends are really for. They are there through thick & thin no matter what.

    Hope everything ends up ok. Keep your chin up and keep smiling.

  3. You're a wonderful man Ryan. Not much more I can say.

  4. I'm glad that you are reaching out to your Dad, it matters not what happened in the past, a parent and a child have the strongest bonds but even these need to be nourished. I spent time with my Dad last year after not seeing him for 25 years... magical and I probably won't ever get to do that again but I'll always have those precious memories and no regrets. Good Onya Ryan!:)

  5. I just want you to know that I think what you're doing is great.
    And you have fans all over the world. (I'm from The Netherlands)
    It's fascinating that by writing a blog you can speak to so many people en make the world a little better.

    good luck!